Friday, January 04, 2019

What’s good for the goose may be infuriating for the gander

We can never assume other people are having the same experience that we are. 

And we can never assume other people operate inside the same value systems as we do. 

Doing so only leads to disconnection, tension and conflict in our relationships. 

For example, certain cherished habits that we believe positively represent our character, like discipline, focus and ambition, may be negatively perceived by others as stubborn, obsessive and brown nosing. 

But those people aren’t wrong. It’s simply their experience of our behavior. 

And so, there’s no use getting upset when somebody misinterprets our actions. 

All we can do is remind ourselves that we live in a world with other people. All we can do is develop enough humility so that we recognize our part in any misunderstandings. All we can do is let go of asking people to be just like we are. 

In short, what’s good for the goose may be infuriating for the gander. 

We must be careful not to burden our relationships with too many misconceptions, faulty assumptions and arbitrary rules. 


Are you seeing people as they are, or projecting your own autobiography onto them? 

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Scott Ginsberg
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