Sunday, May 20, 2018

Entering fully into an experience that gives you pleasure

Joy is not an accident, it’s a choice. 

One that we actually have control over. 

The problem is, most of us are so emotionally guarded that we don’t allow ourselves to manifest our delight. We’re too intent on bracing ourselves for the worst. 

And so, we hold back from trusting and experiencing joy. Because people might point and whisper and stare at us like we’re nuttier than a bag of trail mix. And the happiness will become so great that it might disintegrate us. 

I once shared an office with two coworkers who couldn’t have been more different on the joy spectrum. 

One was a flamboyant, dancing, whistling gay designer whose clothes were so tight, you could tell what religion he was. 

The other guy was an introverted, midwestern, conservative programmer who always looked like he was ready to stab somebody. 

Watching the two of them interact was priceless. It was like living inside a sitcom. When an upbeat song would come on the radio, the designer would spontaneously break out into song and dance like a human flash mob. 

And without fail, the sourpuss would look up from his screen, slowly crick his neck to the left, give the designer the stink eye and simply say, stop

But he never did. The show went on. The force was strong with this one. 

Do you allow yourself the weakness of being happy? 

Many people don’t. They have a hard time entering fully into an experience that gives them pleasure. Because they’re afraid it might jinx them. Or cause the other shoe to drop. Or expose them to potential disappointment and shame. Or worse yet, cause them to lose their sense of self. 

It’s a very real fear. But the good news is, once we discover that it’s completely unfounded, what awaits us the other side is a disco that never stops. 

How are you orienting yourself to that which delights you?

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Scott Ginsberg
That Guy with the Nametag
Author. Speaker. Strategist. Inventor. Filmmaker. Publisher. Songwriter.

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