Tuesday, March 24, 2015

You teach people how to treat you

Wearing a nametag everyday for fifteen years taught me a lot about boundaries. 

Since beginning my experiment at the age of twenty, I’ve had stalkers try to befriend me, cult members try to covert me, hockey players try to fight me, drug dealers try to sell me, religious zealots try to proselytize me and pyramid schemers try to recruit me. 


Turns out, if you don’t set your own boundaries, other people will set them for you. And then they will violate them. And then they will tell all their little friends to do the same. And it will be your fault because you failed to set a precedent. 

Proving, that you teach people how to treat you. That boundaries are saviors. Without them, people will walk all over you. 

Now, what’s interesting is, boundaries tend to elicit a binary reaction. One camp of people will respond negatively. They will find the very idea of you owning your life offensive, threatening and disenfranchising. They will call you forceful and selfish and proud and independent. Because deep down, they will know that your boundaries stripped them of their power to manipulate and control you. 

However, the other camp of people will respond positively to your boundaries. They will notice your newfound maturity and discipline, treat you more respectfully and take you more seriously. And they will understand your need to be at full choice with your life. Because deep down, they will know that they’re not the only ones drawing lines around their lives. 

The goal, then, is to surround yourself with the second camp of people. The ones who give you the freedom to be who you are. 

How much time have you spent constructing a personal boundary system?

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Scott Ginsberg
That Guy with the Nametag
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