Once your dream comes true, not only do you have to learn to live with it, you also have to learn to deal with people who resent you for having and following it.
That’s the downside of success. The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune often show up in the form of bitterness, anger and resistance. Not because you’ve done something wrong, but because somebody else hasn’t done something right.
Pressfield was correct in observing that when people see others beginning to live their authentic selves, it drives them crazy if they have not lived out their own. Individuals who are realized in their own lives almost never criticize others.
And so, every dreamer is unprotected against the searing headwind of others people’s doubts. Because every society uses ridicule as a means of social control. You are only free to the degree that you allow people’s doubts to manipulate you.
The secret, then, is not scrubbing your life clean of resenters, but transforming yourself into someone less likely to be derailed by resenters.
When I used to receive a lot of hatemail, my mentor suggested responding to people with a single sentence. I respect your opinion of my work. Not only did this mantra leave resenters nowhere to go, but the practice of responding to negativity in an unemotional, undemonstrative and calm way helped me grow in my ability to be in control of myself.
I’ve written and said that mantra so many times, I’m now confident in my ability to gain perspective and control anytime I feel that I’ve lost it.
What’s your shield against the slings and arrows of resentment?
LET ME SUGGEST THIS...
For a copy of the list called, "10 Reasons Your Business Doesn't Really Exist," send an email to me, and you win the list for free!
* * * *
That Guy with the Nametag
Author. Speaker. Strategist. Inventor. Filmmaker. Publisher. Songwriter.
Now booking for 2015-2016.
Email to inquire about fees and availability. Watch clips of The Nametag Guy in action here!