Sunday, October 13, 2013

We're Not Supposed To Love One Thing

My business was my first love.

It was the first thing I gave everything to, and the first thing that gave everything to me. The two of us were absolutely faithful to each other. We were inseparable. You couldn’t tell where the company ended and I began.

Which was professionally helpful, but psychologically hazardous.

Because as with any first love, our flame slowly started to fade.

I was changing. She was changing. The world around us was changing. And both of us knew we were starting to outgrow the relationship.

So I freaked out.

This wasn’t just a breakup, this was an identity crisis.

And that’s the danger of throwing your heart into something and letting it become all you stand for. The moment it slips away, panic settles in. And you start wondering to yourself, what am I supposed to do when the best part of me was always you?

Identity diversification, that’s what.

Become more than what you’re known for. Live larger than your labels. Create a richer repertoire of meaning. Establish an identity independent of your profession.
                        
In short, stop being so goddamned one-dimensional. 

We’re not supposed to be one thing in life.

And we’re not supposed to love one thing either.