Saturday, July 14, 2012

Identity is an Inside Job

Identity is a complex adventure.

On one hand, when you build your identity from the outside in, from how people respond to you, the vision you have of yourself comes solely from the social mirror. You let the world tell you who you are. And it’s hard to grow into yourself when you’re smothered by expectations.
                 
On the other hand, when you build your identity from the inside out, from how you chose to see yourself, the vision you have comes solely from your own limited worldview. You lack the necessary perspective. And it’s hard to grow into yourself when you’re insulated from any kind of feedback.

The secret is balance. Listening from the outside in, then deciding for yourself.

Because while both sides of the are valuable, ultimately, identity is still an inside job.