Thursday, December 14, 2006
Boys are stupid throw rocks at them
Perhaps the folks at David & Goliath were right.I was googling "how to approach" and "approach tips" last night, and I couldn't help but notice something:
Most of the hits were articles about seducing, picking up and getting numbers from women.
Actually, they weren't even articles. Most were one page sales letters or extended pictches for seduction ebooks, 6 CD or 12 DVD attraction kits, workshops and the like that promise to teach you How To Approach Any Woman, Anywhere And Know Exactly What To Say To Get Her To Give You Her Number And Go On A Date With You - NOW.
Don't worry. I'm not player hating. If this stuff works, good on ya.
BUT HERE'S MY THEORY: ever since the release of Neil Strauss's (amazing) book The Game, the underground world of pick-up artists, seduction gurus and attraction experts has TOTALLY exploded.
I'm not saying this is bad. Most of the information published on seduction-based approachability (most, I say), is well researched, lucid and thought provoking.
But here's what I think is really, really funny:
If you google the phrase approaching women, 101,000 hits come up.
But, if you google the phrase approaching men, only 16,000 hits come up.
Hmm. Interesting.
LET ME ASK YA THIS...
What do you this that means?
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Most of women's dating advice seems to be with managing the relationships after someone approaches them. It may just be a cultural stereotype or it may just be the way we are hardwired but I think most people still fall under the assumption that the man should approach the woman in a relationship.
I think both sexes are equally looking for relationships, just each gender has different problems in finding it. I bet if you asked a different relationship question the answers could be all targetted to women.
Maybe there are more desperate men than women. Maybe there are better looking women than there are better looking men. Maybe testosterone is more potent than estrogen. Maybe women know they are really in charge of the chase. I am sooooo glad I am married and don't have to try and answer all those maybes.
I think it means that men need more help. ;o) Just kidding.
I really think it means that most women out there are still old fashioned like me. They don't do the approaching, they wait to be approached. Hence, (did I just say hence?) there isn't as much demand out there for women to find out how to approach you guys.
Well for one thing, men are traditionally the ones who have to approach. That's just life; get over it.
It's true that a lot of charlatans have showed up. I wrote a post on my blog (http://therealsavoy.blogspot.com) called Gurus? about this.
The Mystery Method (www.themysterymethod.com) and Badboy Lifestyle (www.badboylifestyle.com) have been around since before The Game and have track records to prove it. Don't buy anything from anyone who won't prove that it works, live, in unscripted environments with random attarctive women.
As a single chick in this crazy world, your post reminds me of the "reject hotline" my girlfriend told me about last weekend. HILARIOUS!! It must be available in other area codes, but this is the one for Toledo, OH 419 452 6002.
To answer your question: could it be women have a better understanding on how to approach men? Or is it we just don't care to research it? I know if I want to talk to someone, I'll go up and talk to them. If they creep me out, then I can slip them the "reject number." :)
Men are expected to lead in most dating situations. Therefore women just react to the situation. This means that if the woman is attractive, she will automatically become socially experienced just by having guys lead her through the process (or lack of it).
Men are expected to be more proactive and if some of them feel a little behind in the game, then you can't blame them for seeking help.
Boys are not stupid, they just havent been to www.attractwomen.com.au to learn how to attract women naturally.
Kev
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